Parenting: the toughest job you never trained for. The pressure we put on ourselves as parents to ‘get it right,’ whatever that means, can leave us bumping up against anxiety at every turn. But allowing our worries to intrude on our parenting can backfire. Researchers at the University of Arizona found kids of over-involved parents had poorer coping skills and a greater sense of entitlement. The good news? We’re better parents when we worry less and let go more. Here are 10 things you can drop from your list of worries.
The pencils are sharpened, the backpack has been chosen, and you have done everything you can think of to prepare your child for the first day of Kindergarten and then it hits you: Your baby is going to Kindergarten! There are plenty of materials parents can use to prepare their child for that first day, but no one tells mom or dad what to do when they let go of the child that has been by their side for five years.
I turned 40 earlier this year. In the months leading up to this milestone, I frequently pondered how to acknowledge it: ‘Party? Family get-together? Fancy dinner?’ The answer came to me when preparing for a family trip. While sorting the clothing, spare clothing, shoes, spare shoes, accessories, toiletries, medication, toys, en route entertainment, snacks, etc. for three kids, I declared in my inside voice, ‘This sucks! Imagine if I just had to pack for myself...’ (Imagine a flashing light bulb moment whilst hearing a resounding ‘Ahhh’ choral here.)
Becoming new parents is a joyous experience, but it can be a very stressful one as well. Even if you and your partner have countless conversations in anticipation of baby’s arrival, you may never be fully prepared and there will be bumps along the way. These bumps are normal. But according to Dr. John Gottman, how you handle them could make the difference between being a “master” couple of the transition, or a “disaster” couple.
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