Sometimes a parent’s ‘the-arts-just-aren’t-necessary’ attitude can tragically squelch a young person’s creative aspirations, and a parent who is too gung-ho about a child’s talents may not realize that hijacking dreams robs a child of healthy feelings of ownership and independence. Fortunately, many parents find the balanced middle. They figure out how to quietly stand behind a young person’s aspirations without taking over, and they find ways to supportively usher their child toward creating a colorful future for themselves.
As parents of creative kids, how can we banish black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking about the arts, and tap into our expressive parenting power instead? Here are a few tips that will help you encourage your kids to create the future that best suits them.
Encourage hobbies. If last year’s hobby was knitting and this year’s hobby is painting, that’s fine. Never force your kids to continue hobbies that no longer interest them. As long as the supplies are affordable and the experience is enriching, variety is good. And when a hobby sticks around, that works, too. Hobbies need to be about the joy of doing. The last thing a hobby should be about is perfection or competition. If you are overly involved in your child’s hobbies, take a step back - that’s their thing. Why not find your own?
Expose your family to the arts. Art appreciation can be a family affair without becoming expensive. Surely you are not the only family in the neighborhood interested in exposing your family to culture. Team up with families in your neighborhood to attend shows and events at group discount rates. Check local museums for free or low-cost admission days and support your local performance theatres (there are several great kids theatres in Calgary). You can also find cultural opportunities through a public library, community centres, via local schools and post-secondary education institutes, and by taking advantage of special broadcasts at independent movie theatres, and more.
Make room for imagination. The magic of creativity often happens in private. How often do you all scatter to your own corners of the house to read, create, or simply have some space for imagination? Forget the idea that positive results only come from measured formulas and strictly-followed recipes. Heights of beauty and transformation in art are often achieved through immersion in an imaginative process. Structured arts and crafts projects are fine, but release your kids to their own creative devices, as well.
Explore a range of art forms. Art has many types. A partial list includes dancing, singing, fine art (painting, sculpture, architecture, music, and poetry), theatre arts, photography, collage, film, printmaking, mosaics, crafts, and calligraphy. Join a local cultural centre or have your child attend a fun art workshop, class, or camp at a local paint studio!
Relax about messes. Your perfectionism may cost your kids in creative growth. Artists often have to try something dozens of times before they get the hang of even a simple brushstroke. Adopt a practice-makes-proud attitude. If you notice your child craving space to spread out and practice work, try to create some. Make room for projects to be spread out for several days or however long the projects take. Find nooks and crannies of your home that can support ongoing creative messes. Drop the pressure to immediately clean up after every sitting. Take good care of art tools but allow for a bit of creative chaos.
Test-drive a variety of techniques. Within so many approaches to one art form, you will constantly face lots of choices. So why not let your little artist explore a variety of methods as deeply as they like over time? For example, dance studios typically offer ballet, tap, jazz, lyrical, acrobatics, hip-hop, and more dance forms. Within theatre, you will find plays, musicals, ballet, and opera. Within painting, you will find oil, pastel, acrylic, watercolor, ink, and many more. Technique classes for kids can provide a solid foundation for more in-depth study later in life.
Bankroll dreams gradually. Don’t drop a lot of cash up front or you may inadvertently set the stage for, “You’ll like it because I paid for it,” which is always a lot of pressure. Go for low-commitment opportunities initially and then streamline along lines of interest as kids mature. For a dancer, you could start with tap dancing then add a new style each year according to your child’s tastes and talents. If you expand as your child’s abilities grow, your child will be ready for a more intensive level of participation around junior high, which often benefits kids at this developmental juncture.
Banish pressure. Creativity and pressure are like oil and water. They don’t mix well in young children, who are more likely to benefit from variety and flexibility in self-expression. As a parent, strive to be that supportive, guiding presence so you can help your children make choices that are expressive and sensible. And while they are occupied, why not get out your own journal, knitting, or paints? Follow your child’s example and you’ll soon be busy figuring out what is in you that is longing to be expressed.
Author, journalist, and writing coach Christina wrote this article when she wasn’t shuttling her daughter back and forth to school and dance classes.
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